From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 11/5/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #305] Joy"Joy is your reward for doing the right thing.
The purpose of joy is to motivate you to do more of what makes you happy, to enjoy what is good for you., Sometimes this involves nothing more than being present to observe the good without editing, correcting, or adding to it…
Joy is living in the moment.
Joy is the simplicity of life.
Joy is openness, the willingness to be seen without disguise, and to be heard without censoring your true feelings…
Joy is the dissolving of self-consciousness that allows you to be yourself…
Joy is being fully present for someone you love and realizing that he is also present for you."
David Viscott, MD, Emotional Resilience
We sometimes sabotage the natural experience of joy during creative efforts. Rather than losing myself in the flow of creativity, I sometimes listen to the chorus of doubting voices, speaking phrases like: "OK but not great;" "others won't like this work;" " you don't know enough to be a real expert;" "what makes you think that this is really that great?"
We have the right to experience the joy of the present moment.
My son is a creative artist, a creator of art in various media, especially oil paintings. He supports himself with his art and it's apparent that he experiences joy in the creative work. When he experiences difficulties with his projects, I notice that he has a gift for self-encouragement. Rather than self-criticize, he talks to himself with encouraging and understanding words. Saying them out loud seems to bolster his reserve of inner strength.
Experiment: Dialogue with your partner about a vexing problem. Practice giving yourself encouragement for your situation and your role in solving your problems.
Affirmation: We release the old passion for self-criticism and experience joy of the moment without editing, correcting, or adding to it.
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