From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 10/1/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #272] Choices
"Whatever does not spring from a man’s free choice, or is only the result of instruction and guidance, does not enter into his very being, but still remains alien to his true nature; he does not perform it with truly human energies, but merely with mechanical exactness." - Karl Wilhelm Von Humboldt
My parents were very good as asking for what they wanted. I normally had one choice, do this or you will get punished. This didn't seem to offer many options.
In relationship, when I want my partner to do something, it is helpful if I offer choices. This gives him a sense of some power rather than responding as a child would to a parent. It also helps me be more creative with the variety of ways he might help me satisfy my needs.
I can even ask for something extravagant as one of the choices and who knows, he may give it to me. For example, Marty, I would like to celebrate our anniversary by either 1) going to the beach for an overnight using our gift certificate for accommodations, 2) going to Bali for a week or 3) staying at a Bed and Breakfast in our neighborhood. Guess which one Marty chose.
Experiment: Ask for what you want giving three choices. Remember it is important to accept a no to all three. Your partner then has the option of coming up with a fourth idea.
Affirmation: I am supporting my partner in expressing their true nature by offering choices.
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