From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 6/15/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #165] Hurt
"As adults, when we deny ourselves the immediate experience of an emotion, a screen of words is put up by the mind, and this throws us out of the present and into either the past or the future. To feel an emotion fully and completely, to experience it and then release it, is to be in the present, the only moment that never ages." - Deepak Chopra
Psychiatrist David Viscott describes the cycle of emotions as follows:
Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety.
Unexpressed anger, redirected against yourself and held within, is called guilt.
The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
Deepak Chopra says that "stored hurt is responsible for a wide range of psychological distress. Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression. The only way to deal with these layers of pain is to find out what hurts as the pain occurs, deal with it, and move on. Living in the present means being honest enough to avoid the easy emotion, which is anger, and expose the hurt, which is harder to confront. When hurt is not resolved in the present, the vicious buildup of anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression can only grow worse."
Experiment: Notice when you feel hurt today and communicate that to the person involved in the situation by saying "I feel hurt".
Affirmation: As I release my hurt, I am able to forgive.
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