From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 5/14/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #133] Good Advice
"If I do not want what you want,
please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.
Or if I believe other than you,
at least pause before you correct my view.
Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more,
given the same circumstances,
try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
Or yet if I act or fail to act
in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me.
That will come only when you are willing
to give up making me into a copy of you." - Anonymous
What harm is there in giving a little advice to my partner? What if they do what I want them to and then get hurt? How would I feel?
When Marty validates me for my beliefs, I know he trusts me to do what is best for myself. When he empathizes with my feelings, I know he recognizes that I have a right to my experience of life.
It drains my energy when I to try to change my external world. When I stop and focus on understanding Marty, I widen my horizons. I become more whole and complete.
Experiment: Dialogue with your partner about an area in your life where you are having difficulty making a decision. Practice refraining from giving or receiving advice.
Affirmation: I know what is best for me.
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