From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 1/25/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #25] Meeting Needs
"Meeting my partner's needs calls me into wholeness." Edward Shea, LCSW.
Those who practice relationship therapy have a strange insight, apparently acquired through years of watching hundreds of couples. They claim that couples seems to intuitively choose mates who are least able to give what they most need. For example, if my partner needs lots of attention and validation, then it's predictably hard for me to give those to her, harder for me than for the average person.
Moreover, therapists posit that when I give what is hardest for me, I will grow. In this context growth means developing latent abilities that I possess but choose not to use.
Giving what she most needs calls forth the hero in me, "Step forward and face the dragons!"
Experiment: Surprise your partner with a need-meeting action today.
Affirmation: We are increasing our capacity to give to each other in our partnership.
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