From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 1/21/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #21] Requesting
Date: Tue, 20 Jan 1998 21:57:40 -0800
"Ask for what you want; don't demand it." - Ken Keyes
Sometimes sharing my thoughts and feelings, even being understood and acknowledged isn't enough. Sometimes my frustration is reminding that I really want my partner to change.
I grew up on the ranch, where men are tough. Men endure cold, heat, dirt, pain, and we don't go around whining about it. We suck it up and be tough. I also learned from Mother that saints never ask for help. My formative years render me almost incapable of asking for anything from my partner.
However, a good case can be made for requesting; especially near the end of the dialogue, after I've been heard, understood, and acknowledged. Then, it IS ok to ask for what I want. Not asking is probably a withhold.
Experiment: Practice a dialogue leading to a specific request for a change or a favor from your partner. Do not attempt to convince her to change; just ask.
Affirmation: I am practicing good self-care in making appropriate requests of my partner.
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