From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 1/16/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #16] More About Feelings
"What you can feel, you can heal." - John Gray, Ph.D.
Emotions have been described as energy in motion. The origin of the word emotion includes the French word movere which means to move. Identifying our emotions helps us take action towards healing.
Feelings are neither good or bad, right or wrong, negative or positive. As we observe our feelings with curiosity, we learn more about what is important to us.
As we express our feelings while taking responsibility, we create more intimacy in our relationships. For example, "when I heard you say that you did not want to dialogue this morning, I had a thought that I must not be important to you. I feel angry because I want to talk with you about my feelings".
When an event occurs, we interpret its meaning with a thought or belief. We also have a myriad of feelings about our perception of the situation. As we explore the primary feelings, we can identify which ones describe our inner emotions. By sharing them with my partner, I allow him in-to-me-see and I experience intimacy. This process of sharing feelings is indeed healing.
Experiment - Practice using the following language to dialogue with your partner.
I see or saw..., I hear or heard...
I think or believe...
I feel or felt...
I want...
Affirmation - I am taking responsibility for my feelings and expressing them honestly.
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