From The Daily Dialogue
From The Daily Dialogue
Broadcast of 9/20/98
Subject: [DailyDialogue #263] Acting the Part
"It is not true that post-traumatic illness can be healed by forgetting, despite the fact that many people try to heal it in just this way. They do so at the expense of their own bodies or of other people--their children, patients, students, …"
Alice Miller, Breaking Down the Wall of Silence: the liberating experience of facing painful truth.
Recently Eddy and I performed a wedding service for a young couple. After the service was complete, Eddy asked the bride about the marriage license. Eddy takes responsibility to make certain that the documentation is completed, signed and submitted to state authorities. The bride informed her that they had been secretly married several months previous in a civil ceremony, in order to take advantage of financial benefits for married couples. The bride said that they wanted the wedding service and the reception for the family and friends.
It is common in many families to keep secrets, for what may seem like good reasons at the time. Often the secrets begin as we seek to avoid hurting another person. Unfortunately, hurt is usually magnified when the secret is revealed.
Secrets also drain life-energy from those who keep them, leading to confusion, duplicity, and loss of connection.
It’s natural to feel hurt and betrayed when we discover that we’ve been deceived. Knowing that the person who created the deception has suffered a greater loss in the deception may help us feel compassion and a willingness to forgive. Ultimately, I suppose our ability to forgive springs from our Spirit.
Experiment: With your partner, dialogue about compassion and forgiveness for someone who has deceived you.
Affirmation: We are experiencing life-renewal through forgiveness.
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